too BLESSED to be STRESSED...

which one do you think is easier:
to compliment or to criticize?

i think it's not so difficult to praise others, esp when they are good(better than us), but it is just easier to criticize..agree? maybe we dont really aware when we criticize others. it simply comes out from our mouth(or action?) when we see things are not perfectly done (by others)...

but before you do that, have you ever thought of what will others feel when they are being criticized? better rephrase the question:
how do you feel when u are criticised? is it better than being praised?;p

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why we criticize others?
is it because we think we can do better than them? we think we are more qualified?
if yes, why dont we become the ones who do it?
try to put our feet in their shoes..
maybe we can think,if we are them, what things make them doing 'dissatisfactory' job?
is it because of lack of experience, lack of confidence, lack of preparation, busyness? can be anything rite?
if we think we are more capable, maybe we can try to show up(but not showing off please), then we can contribute something better for society;p?
who knows that they have sacrifice something and prepare they best, but they just cant do it perfectly.. if it is because of lacking of experience, why dont we give them one or two more try? remember practice makes perfect:)

our contribution can be in form of suggestion.. instead of saying 'oh it's rather bad', why dont we say, " i think you should do this for this and that for that so it can be like this and not like that, thus it will be better.." and u may say also, "may i help u in correcting this and this?"
dont just talk..show it..act it.. prove that what we tell them to do can improve something and feasible..:)

if we think we are not better, but we still like to criticize others...
hmm..maybe we need a bigger mirror;p...

anyway,i never say we cannot criticize people..
criticism is sometimes needed to encourage people to do better.. if it is constructive, why not?
however, if it is destructive, hmm..please think twice...=D
maybe the degree of "destructiveness" is different depends on the temperament of each person..but i think we know what kind of criticism is destructive rite?;p


we may also learn to compliment others.. yeah, if we find people doing good deeds, maybe a 'good job' phrase can brighten their day? compliment can make people feel appreciated, existing, taken into account etc.. (this excludes sarcasm;p)

as human-beings, we need some words of affirmation or appreciation...
but when we are praised, we need to remember one thing: be humble.. (and also be skeptical, ask yourself: do they really praise you? sometimes people praise you to cast you down.. why? because u maybe proud, arrogant, and thus underestimate things when we are praised high.. and finally you will fall from high..ouch.. i know this does happen!)

just like one of my quotes on my fb account: "It is no great things to be humble when you are brought low; but to be humble when you are praised is great and rare attainment"..

let's attain it together, would you?