too BLESSED to be STRESSED...

It literally means revealing the secrets.. Interested?hehe..
Not my secret anyway, just the title a tv show on a quite new channel(still no advertisement:p)..
Wanna know what the secret is?^^


Since we have entered the new year, we sure have new hopes and dreams..
in this year, we may want to achieve what we couldnt get last year.. Of course because of challenges and difficulties we faced rite?not because of our laziness:p :p..

anw, let's talk about failure..the state when we cant achieve our expectation.. Is failure a delayed success? Can be.. Actually it's just a process before being successful..
By keeping on trying, sooner or later, usually people will gain their success.

but, what if when we fail,then we try again, and still fail, improving the skills, trying a new way,etc, but we keep on failing over and over again?
There should be something wrong that we may not be able to see..
Like we cant see our own backs(without any tool:p), we often cant see the things that make us fail over and over again..
And,this's the time when the help from others is needed:)..

We need a person who can show us our blindspot and to strengthen us when we're weak as well as to criticize us when we dont go the right things..
Human is a social creature that cant live alone, that's why there's a social networking site called facebook (huh?)..he2..

ok, back to topic..
Let's see these 3 cases(real ones) ..

1st cases:
a mother with 2months old baby..
decided to stop working to take care of(read:human-milk-feed:p) her baby..
Not long after that, her husband left her..
Without job and husband,need to feed the baby..
Feeling so desperate, finally blamed God..
Almost decided to end her life..

but, she remembered about her baby..
she survived because she realised that the baby needs her to continue living..

2nd case:
a man without a leg..
be a mask dancer-tari topeng(A traditional dance in an area in indonesia)
,which is an ancestral culture that he does want to conserve..
seems imposible,but he choose not to limit himself..

often doubted for his skills because of his physical imperfectness..

with great desire to preserve the inherittance of his ancestors, and to show to the world that he can do what other normal people can do, he made a move and he has shown it to the people..

3rd case:
1.2m tall guy..
Have passion in teaching art(dance and drama)..
Being underestimated bcoz of his height, esp. by parents of his students..
Confident and have high self esteem..
Keep doing his best for the schools
prove his confidence and bring the school to the champion of an acting competition

all of them have reasons to be a failure,but they choose not to..
Problems, challenges, limitations can be turned into successes..esp the 2nd n 3rd cases.. They persevered despite their physical weaknesses
..they dont feel ashamed for their appearance and they dont let others to set the boundaries for their success..

if were born physically better than those people,why cant we reach our stars? If they can, we should be able too:p..

from the stories of the 3 people,
the main secret to overcome failure is:

Change our focus.
Let's imagine if the woman in the 1st case just think about herself.she would have passed away and her child would be abandoned..
Sometimes when we focus our mind on others' need, it can be our strength..on the flipside, if we just think of ourselves, and focus on our own sufferings, it's gonna be more difficult to rise up..

same things go to the 2nd and 3rd cases..
They dont focus on their physical weaknesses, rather they focus on their passion and goals.. They choose to ignore whatever comes their way to destroy their dreams.. They choose to give their best for the people they love..
dont focus on how the challenges makes we suffer,rather
how good it feels if we can conquer the problem..
Put our focus on the best thing we can give..

And do not forget to focus our eyes on the one who created us,who gives us the air to breath, who know us from the tip of our hair to the tip of the toe...

For he know the plans he has for us are plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to gives us hope and a future:)

Feel his perfect love from every breath that we take..

and the secret revealed?:p..

yup, failing is just a process that everyone will ever experience. It's not the end of everything..

everything will be perfect in the end,if it's not perfect, means it's not the end yet:p